Familiarity breeds indifference. A meditation on love
I want to write a little about "Love", as it is something that today many people do not understand, even among those who seek spiritually for it. Many people have been confused by the word, and the way it has been used by main stream platforms such as Disney and Hollywood. For many, the word invokes an image of "unfathomable bliss", something which is hidden from us which we need to find. But lets go into it.
Lets for a moment assume that everything is love, that God is love.
God in this case, is the wind which lifts a bird up in the sky, so that it might hunt. God is the rabbit which gives its life, so that the bird may live and feed its young. God is the silence within you, but also the one who makes your heart beat. God is the rain, which falls on parched fields, so that grain may grow. God is the air you breathe, the food you eat. God is the shade under a tree, on a warm day. God is the language which you use to either express your love, or your anger. Everything in fact, which nourishes you and sustains you, everything which lets you experience this vast vast existence with all its joys and sorrows.
God is existence itself, and that existence is love.
If you then say "Ok existence is Love", it may at this point become apparent that love is something rather ordinary. Something every day like. And it would be every day like. We become so used to it that we do not see the magic of existence until we somehow get shook up enough to notice it. We're desensitized to the agape love of existence, by existence itself. I am reminded of the fish, that wanted to know what water is. It didn't know, so it went looking everywhere for this "water" that it had heard others talk about. Love is like that.
I suspect this is why Jesus urged us to "Become as children again", because familiarity breeds indifference. To become as a child again, simply means to look at the world anew, with childlike wonder at the beauty of it all. Many things can be said about Jesus, but I think at the very least, it is true that he was a man who knew God.
This agape love can be seen everywhere around us, if we look. The question we have to ask ourselves in order to recognise it is this: Is this reality we exist in ultimately good?
There is as many negatives as there are positives. But the key thing to understand is that without the negatives, the positives could also not exist. They depend upon each other and define each other. They give each other meaning.
If we remove any of the negatives, we also remove the positives. If you follow so far, then you can see that the negatives while unpleasant give meaning to the pleasant and vice versa. You do like experiencing the pleasant I presume ? It owes its existence to the unpleasant, so be grateful for that too.
Looking at nature, it is a system in which the parts live for each other, as much as they live for themselves. This is the definition of an eco-system, each part contributes to the existence of the other parts. If a fox consumes too many rabbits, the foxes die and the rabbits flourish. If the rabbits become too many, the foxes gain an ample supply of food and flourish once again.
Another word for an eco-system is relationships.
These relationships are selfless, unconditional and sacrificial. You'll find that the universe consists entirely of such relationships. There is no part of it which is not in relation to every other part of it.
That is agape, a Greek word which very definition is "a selfless, unconditional and sacrificial care for everything".
So I say that existence is good, even if it contains much suffering and unpleasantness. There is a certain rhythm and balance to it which we need to understand in order to become whole ourselves rather than conflicted and divided against ourselves.
We use words and phrases such as "the wind caressed her face" but we don't really mean it. I mean it. It is the truth of the matter.
Don't look for love. It is foolishness to go looking for what has already been given.
Rather, be it.